Thursday, January 10, 2013

2 Little Birds Leave the Nest

The last few days have been a whirlwind...to say the least.  
We moved our oldest daughter into an apartment in another town this past weekend, and our middle daughter moved into the dorms on our campus this past Tuesday. 


These two whippersnappers.
On their own.
Wow.

I really was ok with it all until Sunday night when I realized furniture was leaving this time too.
That seemed a little more permanent.  
The reality is that even if they do come home briefly from time to time or even to move back in for a while, they will never be my little girls anymore.
I promise I'm not being dramatic.
Just facing reality.

I'm proud of both of them. 
So proud.

Does anybody have a xanax?
Just kidding (kinda) ;)

The youngest has big plans for the side of our house that now belongs to her...and her only.  I'll have to keep a close eye on that one!



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  1. I basically left when I married my husband when I was 22 but times were different 31 years ago. Enjoy your semi-freedom.

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    1. I only lived on my own for a year or so before I got married too, Patty. But, you're right. Times are different now. Neither of my daughters really even talks about marriage being a part of their future in the next few years (I'm glad of that as well). :)
      I am enjoying some very positive aspects of "having my house back"...with every change, there is an emotional adjustment to make so I'm just riding out those waves :)

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  2. I talk alot about everything I'm going to do when my kids leave, and it's all true! But they are such a presence in our lives for so long, I cannot even imagine what I'm going to feel when I can no longer hear them or see them on a daily basis. I am already mourning the loss of their babyhood. The sweet, adoring little faces are gone, and aliens have moved in. :)

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    1. It does definitely help that those aliens become even more alien to you before they leave. They are their own people, and of course, that's the way it's supposed to be. But sometimes you want to smack 'em :p

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  3. It's satisfying to see them grown up right and move on with their lives but it's also a little sad too. I am thinking of you.

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    1. Thanks, Ti :) I have plans for sprucing up their side of the house but I can only do a little bit at a time. It just feels weird.

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  4. Like Sandy, I am always making plans for when our kids move out, but think that when the time finally comes, I will be sad and a little aimless. I can sympathize with what you are feeling. Good luck to you over there, and lots of hugs.

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    1. "Aimless" is a perfect adjective. I had so many plans for a small study for me and letting the youngest move some of her things around. But, both older girls left enough personal stuff behind that it's emotionally challenging to stay in there long...not to mention to pack up all the mess they left out. I just packed up some cheerleader uniforms that the oldest hasn't needed in 4 years but gosh, it tugged my heart :/ That's enough for tonight. Maybe tomorrow I'm make more progress :)

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  5. I know how you feel!!! I am NOT looking forward to the empty nest thing, although ofcourse I want my birds to fly as they will -

    ...and, I do happen to have Xanax if you need one or two :-)

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    1. It's weird, Karen. Like you said, it's not that I wish they were little again or anything like that. It's just weird. LOL about the Xanax (shhh, I have my own prescription, thanks ;);) and a nice bottle of wine just waiting on me to find something good on tv to watch tonight :)

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  6. It is a bittersweet moment to be sure … but you did your job good, Mama Bird! And they will come home to visit the nest every so often so you've got that!

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    1. yes, there is that :) Our middle daughter has been itching to go also, and I can already see signs of growing up from her now that she's out of the house. I think she needed a little space to really feel like her own person. If letting her go helps her to become the exceptional young woman I know she's meant to be, then I'm ok with it :)

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  7. I will be seeing my daughter off to college after May and I have to say it's a surreal thought that my baby girl is old enough to live on her own. It's funny, my mom was the over-protective type and never encouraged any of us to spread our wings and fly. I've spent my whole motherhood teaching my children to think independently and follow your dreams, and now that the time has come, I'm thinking, "Noooooo! I'm not ready for that to happen!!" At least all of us who are moms can relate!

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    1. I've tried to be that mom who encourages her kids to fly...but that doesn't make it any easier when they do actually fly :( My dad was encouraged independence but my mom was the over-protective type...so I guess I got a taste of both growing up.

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    1. Thanks, Meg :) They're doing well so far.

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  9. You know how there are freezer books? This is kind of a freezer post. I want to stick it in the freezer and just forget about it FOREVER. I can barely stand the fact that Elle is big enough to have her bangs cut--how can one stand them moving out?! Deep breaths. Hopefully you will still see them fairly regularly. And you never know--both my sister and I live within a mile radius of my mom... ;)

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    1. I soooo get it, Trish. I put things in the freezer every day...bc I just can't wrap my mind around it. My oldest daughter took her first road trip to a city 8 hours away to visit a friend and spend the weekend at the college where she thinks she wants to go to grad school. I put that trip in the freezer. It was the only way I could deal with it. Oy.

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